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26 may be a great time to get married if you're hoikong up with your high school sweetheart or something but, quite frankly, (and I know this may piss some people off) you really don't know who you are at that age. I'd say you could start a relationship then and see where it goes but I would want to put a good four or five years between getting together and tying the knot. I know a great many people who got married young and are in the stages of separation and divorce. The number one reason? They were different people when they met. They were different because they were too young to know who they were, too young to know what they needed in life and in a partner. In your twenties, you're just getting a sense of who you are, what you dig and what kind of life you'd like to lead. In lieu of a depth of life experience, you're mostly working with second hand ideas and ideals of what matters, where you want to go, etc. Ideas and ideals that will, invariably, be tested against the realities of life and discoveries about who you really are and what really matters to you. Knowledge that can only come with time and experience. Again, you really don't have much wisdom in your 20s. That's a time of exploration, learning and disovery. I don't feel I really started to know myself in a truthful, honest and meaningful way until I hit 30. Your personality and knowledge base begins to stabilize in profound ways when you reach your 30s. So when you meet another person who is also in this age group, chances are, they've been in a few relationships already, learned things and discovered what they do and do not want for better and for worse. At least they know. Especially men. A young guy may not have the confidence to admit what he really wants. And he may just tell you what he thinks you need to hear, rather than exploring what really matters to him. Meet that same guy five to ten years later and that's when he has the confidence and self-awareness to say what he can and cannot offer (based on his own experiences sacrificing or enjoying particular experiences in the journey to self realisation). I say, wait a while. Don't let somebody else (or society) do your thinking for you. Marriage and family are profound life choices that can lead to years of joy (or misery) depending on whether you have made those choices in an examined and personally meaningful way.

Hi Sakshi,Now, we all know whats been keeping you busy from positng discussions less than usual on this blog.:D Well, I would like to state my opinion on your topic..since I thought it quite relevant-well not so much relevant but since I have my own wedding in about 3 weeks. I just couldn't resist dropping a line or more..I am sure you have a lot of mixed thoughts running in your head especially since you're getting it more so from your own family.I can only imagine what it must be like for you especially in India.Although, the M word is a scary scary thing to even consider, you know better than just ignoring and leaving it on the backburner since you know you eventually will be tying the knot- and yes it will be a turning point in your life and it should be nothing but good!Since, you and only you decide who you would be spending the rest of your life with( I know how Arranged Mariage is still quite a common concept in India) you are still entitled to meet the guy and get to know him before taking the plunge.I met my fiance' about two years ago- and much to my own surprise it was on none other than the most hyped Shaadi.com . I was on it for fun and didn't expect anything serious out of it. But then, as they say Expect the unexpected!We took our time to get to know each other ( not virtually over the Internet but in real life) by meeting soon after we contacted each other via e-mail.Marriage is a union between a man and a woman wherein they both contribute equally into the relationship and make it a stronger bond. But, if often is the case that both the guy and girl chip in since the norms of society are such that it is expected of women to compromise and they are mostly taken for granted. But, times are changing now and even though traditions are quite inherent in the Indian Society it is educated families/kids that need to change the mindset of yester years. I just think it depends on how each individual views it and how varied is each person's view. As for myself, that is what I personally think. And just to let you know as well that I am also having a little Hen's Night for myself- since I feel I equally deserve to have a wonderful time!:D- UtsaPS: Sorry bout the really long post..